I am headed into a week of heavy grading and have resurrected this look to illustrate a point about thrifting. DH has been hard at work rebuilding a second antique organ. A lifelong woodworker, he is fascinated that these foot pedaled organs operate on bellows and wood, all natural materials. It puts his carpenter and problem solving skills to good use during the cooler winter months. On this one, he salvaged a bellows system from our piano tuner and is in the process of modifying it to work with this organ.
Fearful of my book bag, I began to chew on the problem of an inexpensive source of good leather. I love this suede skirt and its fit, but I love my book bag more. At length, I told him about it and you can see it perched as a possibility atop the organ frame. He needs the leather to reinforce the corners of the bellows. It is not yet clear that he will use it, but I know that I paid only $4 for the skirt. If he does use it, I will make elbow patches for a jacket or two from the scraps. How often do any of us re-envision the original purpose for a "thing"? To my way of thinking, that's creativity.
Sunday, I went fabric shopping with him, for the material for the bellows and the backing for the woodwork. I loved the photos of his hands handling these delicate fabrics, but gently tried to discourage the combinations of expensive satin and lace he kept coming up with. On Saturday, I had suggested skirt linings, but perfectionist that he is, money was no issue. Gently, gently, gently, I steered him towards the voile, which he was ultimately very happy with.
I noted though that a long line of women were standing in line to have cloth cut. DH walked up to the counter, laid down his bolts, and a clerk fresh back from her lunch break, ignored the queue to cut what he wanted. I teased him that he was being given preferential treatment.
Minutes later, we visited a craft store for a couple of pieces of woodwork and adhesives that he needed. Here again, the clerks fell all over themselves asking if he needed any help. "No, we don't have the contact cement. Try a hardware store." As he stood in line to pay for his items, an entire table of women in a class for cake decorating stopped what they were doing and in unison, their faces turned toward him! Is a man in a craft store such an unusual thing?
Again I teased him. Mock announcement: "Male in Aisle Three! Male in Aisle Three!" But, I think that this raises an interesting question about customer service. In both stores, my husband was given better customer service than I would have received. I don't know if the reverse would have been true, if I was shopping in a hardware store for example.
But I'm wondering if any of my readers have noticed this tendency? Or, if they have a similar story to tell about bricolage, "to make creative and resourceful use of whatever materials are at hand (regardless of their original purpose)"?
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DeleteTerri, interesting question about customer service. What an amazing hobby and skill your husband has! But your skill (sourcing inexpensive materials) is nothing to sneeze at either! I do love the skirt on you, but would probably vote to sacrifice over a favorite bag as well.
ReplyDeleteDeja Pseu--the customer service thing may be because more women work in customer service, though when I began teaching I was obliged to watch a presentation on subtle sexism in a classroom. Studies showed that female instructors tended to call on men and male instructors called on women. We were shown the video in order to counteract the unconscious tendency.
DeleteTerri, glad to see you wear the necklace! My husband is quite and sweet and often people trip over themselves to help him, because he turns the conversation into an experience about them. He is also very teachable. I am always in a hurry...maybe that is why they would rather talk to him.
ReplyDeletePam--It may be something about my demeanor. DH is definitely more relaxed than I am, but the ladies at the cake decorating table weren't customer service!
DeleteI also had a little heart pitter-patter at the thought of turning over a beloved handbag : > but it's so great that you two can thrift together for your separate purposes. Yes, I've noticed that Sandy gets lots of attention in female-dominated shops, but I do get a lot of help in the hardware store too. Thanks so much for sharing with Visible Monday!
ReplyDeletePatti--DH has actually spent more at the thrift stores in 2012 than I have! My local hardware has female clerks and often at the larger stores we'll use the self-checkout. I've never gone in with a technical question there, but that might make a difference. Perhaps I have a chip on my shoulder about "visibility."
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What beautiful woodwork! I always seem to have a man walk up to me in the home depot as i have this deer-in-headlights look every time!
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Reva--I'm so glad you're back. You are truly an irreplaceable part of the community here. I'm glad to know that you receive good service.
Deletewow very cool :)
ReplyDeleteIzzy--thank you!
DeleteYou make me long for the thrift shops. I am on a painful spending freeze for the month of Feb and can hardly wait until Thursday to see what my local Goodwill has these days.
ReplyDeleteYou and your husband are so very resourceful. I admire that.
Bill and I don't shop much together. He hates the shopping I love and I hate the shopping he loves. So we do ours separately.
Adrienne--I'm trying to not spend there, but I'm not avoiding them. I rarely shop without him, although we do tend to separate within a store and do our own wandering.
DeleteBricolage...though I am unfamiliar with this wonderful, new to me word...it is a creative mainstay in all I design...both for fashion and interior. Terri I so enjoy your blog and it's academic tone....thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteTamera--I have admired both your fashion and interior. In fact, I think I pinned your little miniature Airstream to Pinterest. Drop the new word into a conversation soon.
DeleteI think it is so cool that your DH is restoring that organ. They are so beautiful.
ReplyDeleteYou look so pretty in the outfit. It is a shame to use the skirt to make bellows, but just to buy leather is really expensive so I understand using the skirt.
Debbi--he is not a musician at all, so the musical tuning of it may be a nightmare! DH visited the local shoe shop today to pick the cobblers brain about our leather problem.
DeleteWhat a beautiful organ! I'm always impressed with the knowledge necessary to successfully work with wood.
ReplyDeleteA friend had a wonderful tooled leather purse that she planned on cutting up and sewing on a dress for a Western type sci-fi costume. I have promised to let her have it back when I have worn it out (as a purse). I think she's forgotten about it. Or, more likely, she realized that purse leather wouldn't have worked well for her project. No matter which, you won't be seeing a picture of it on my blog, since as soon as she sees it, she'll ask for it back. And I love that purse.
I have one of those purses that is missing a buckle...do I take it for a repair or confess to DH that I have it. I don't blame you for hiding the purse!
DeleteOh, yes, there's a big difference between the service my husband receives, and the service I generally receive. I think it's at least partly attributable to him being far more assertive than I am, but I suspect sex bias is the bigger part of it.
ReplyDeleteAs for bricolage, does my habit of thrifting otherwise ghastly shirts for their lovely buttons count?
Ana--DH is taller than I am, but not a big man. I can't recall that I've ever seen a photo of your guy. Assertiveness helps, but in may be that women work these lower wage jobs. I've even had it happen over the telephone.
DeleteYes, button salvage would be bricolage. I've made old buttons into earrings.
DeleteYou two make a formidable team, both so skilled, resourceful, and creative!
ReplyDeleteMater--well, I'm not much help in the workshop although I have been called in for a second pair of hands on several construction projects.
DeleteI wonder if men seem to receive more attention than women in most situations is because they simply expect full attention from those they're dealing with.
ReplyDeleteNice that you and your husband can share your creative quests. As far as using things for other purposes, for the longest time I was on the lookout for a suitable sheet to be used in a great caftan I sewed many times, but never found one that was quite right.
Savvy--hm, that could be it. My oldest daughter is more assertive than I am and she often gets her way. Oh, I would love to see a photo of a caftan fashioned from a sheet.
DeleteThese days I always try to buy my car tags online or through the mail. But, back in the old days...wow! what a marked difference. I would stand in line with young children holding all my papers...and wait and wait. And when it was my turn, invariably, I would be missing ONE piece of information to which they would say, "Sorry" and send me on my way to repeat the whole process the next day. Anytime Kenny went, he would call me from the clerk's desk asking for info as the clerk kindly let him call around and have the informaton faxed in while she cleaned out her desk drawers and ignored all the other people in line behind him. It was unbelieveable!
ReplyDeleteKitty--the one year we sent ours to the state, something was lost and we had to make a special trip to the courthouse and pay an extra fee because the state lost it! In the courthouse here, I often have better luck with the clerks than DH does...but I have witnessed this dynamic enough to know it definitely exists. I suppose the reverse would be young women getting their way, but as an older woman I'm no longer aware of these perks. In fact, DH is often approached in thrift stores--"a perfectly good man."
DeleteTerri, I'd hate to see that lovely skirt go to fortifying a bellows, but at least it would match the brocade - even though you probably wouldn't see it?
ReplyDeleteNarda--He told me last night that he has only borrowed a bit from the interior of the skirt...so I may get to wear it after all!
DeleteOh, I repurpose stuff all of the time, so that I don't get sick of stuff haha
ReplyDeleteThat repurposing and the abundance of DIY ideas is the very reason I like your blog so much.
DeleteI am very impressed at your husband's restoration prowess!
ReplyDeleteAnd I think I am from a similarly creative and 'can do" family.
Little anecdote: In the 70's our family was travelling across the Nullabor in our old station wagon. This is the desert across the lower West of Australia, 4 days by car, with no towns and only a few petrol stations very sparsely scattered. The roads were pretty rough back then and the muffler became damaged when a rock flew up under the car. My Dad fixed it with a Coke can. He did a pretty good job since the Coke can stayed on the car for the next 5-6 years!
I am impressed by the anecdote. I have seen a number of films shot in the Australian desert and the adventures that people have there. Was the Coke can something you found or something you had along on the trip? And, of course, it was your father's resourcefulness that saw the possibilities in the can.
DeleteI like how you and your hasband found a way to both enjoy thrifting.When we go shopping with my husband he always gets a good service because he has his way of flattering women with out even embarass me.He is a natural charmer and he gets the best prices possible.
ReplyDeleteAngie--my husband must be somehow charming too. I look at him and see a 'diamond in the rough,' but I've watched over the years as he appeals to a wide variety of women. We were at a B.B.King blues concert one time. A group of African-American women grabbed him and began to dance. I have almost never managed to get him to dance with me???
DeleteJon always has everyone falling over themselves to assist him but I suppose I can't complain with the special treatment I get in charity shops. "Foreigners" always get preferential treatment in India, it makes me cringe and feel like some Colonialist when I'm ushered to the front of the train queue.
ReplyDeleteYour husband's doing a fantastic job. Maybe you should look out for 1980s leather jackets, they're ten a penny in charity shops here and as cheap as chips. x
Vix--I hadn't thought to check the men's leather jackets in the shops. I will suggest that to him. Like you, in the very few places I've traveled outside of the US I've noticed this tendency. Of course, India has a storied history with the UK so I'm certain it is even more complex.
DeleteHow clever of your husband, and how beautiful of you.
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Sacramento--We would make a lovely evening of it. We have sampled this just once at a restaurant in KC and it is truly an interesting way to spend an evening. It invites good conversation.
DeleteFirst, I love that burgundy you had on. You have some excellent red tights too, if I recall. Reds everywhere, love it!
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading your description of the tender man-handling of expensive fabrics and women falling all over themselves to help. I grew up with pump organs in our house, they are such interesting contraptions and objects of beauty, so I wish you luck, but you better hide the rest of your leather! It sounds like you had a fun day together.
I completely agree that re-purposing is an extension of true creativity, that the ability to step from a preconception and envision a new function is a form of freedom.
Melanie--My grandfather was a physics and chemistry teacher who had a hobby of restoring antique pianos and organs. It actually gives me goosebumps to watch DH take up this hobby as he never met my grandfather.
DeleteAnd, yes, bricolage IS a form of freedom. Can't tell you how many times I've used a butter knife as a screwdriver.
Your Monday look is cute : ).
ReplyDeleteI´ve also gathered, that my hb gets served quickly in " better " shops. I guess the reason is, that when he goes over for an errand of mine in his country clothes, and the shop girls wish him quickly out of the shop, hahaa.
Mette--my husband is fairly scruffy most of the time. He shaves about once a week and his hair looks like a mad scientist. Sometimes I wonder if other women look at him and imagine that they could shape him up. Perhaps they think he looks neglected. In any case, he shyly enjoys the attention.
Deleteinteresting story! i'll have to pay more attention next time mark and i are out and about. i'm totally impressed with your resourcefulness! and...i've been meaning to tell you...thank you for commenting on the rock post. here we are, fashion/style bloggers and we're bonding over rocks. ;)
ReplyDeletePaige--perhaps by the time you and Mark are grizzled old veterans like DH & I this will be your idea of a good time, but you have many good years before that hits.
DeleteWhat a beautiful project! I have occasionally noticed that my partner tends to get better customer service than I do, but I think it is because he demands better customer service, where I am happy to just float around & wait. Who knows?
ReplyDeleteI love your Monday look. That skirt is gorgeous, but I'm sure it will be just as gorgeous in its new use as well.
Miss Peregrin--I suspect that my partner is just a friendlier, more open person than I am. I deal with students all week long and become fairly private on the weekends. I have found that I've grown more assertive over time.
DeleteYour DH is so talented. I have a feeling if we lived closer DH and Martin would enjoy spending time together. They seem like similar people, always building/making things.
ReplyDeleteI've not noticed a difference in customer service treatment but we rarely shop in actual stores. However, we will be doing some window shopping in London and Paris (leaving Thursday morning!) so I'll make a point of observing what happens and let you know.
I forgot to mention in the previous comment that like Pseu I love it when you let your hair down and wear it loose.
Susan--the day I saw Martin in his shirt, I KNEW they would hit it off. I wonder if you will somehow be privileged as Americans in Paris, or perhaps you will feel discriminated against.
DeleteThe last time I wore my hair down at work many people were surprised at its length and volume, but of course, the 'subject matter' should be the focus.
Have a wonderful trip.
haha, i totally understand, if i found a beautiful leather bag I would NOT want to sacrifice it for material!!
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Lyddie--In the end, he purchased the specialized leather he needed for this application.
DeleteWould you believe I recently bought a pair of Uggs? What a beautiful organ - is this for his work or are you keeping it?
ReplyDeleteVeshoevius--the Uggs are really comfy for around the house. I don't wear mine out into the world. This organ-rebuilding is his latest hobby. We do have a spot we could put it, but ultimately I don't know his plans for it. He doesn't play.
DeleteI so admire such creativity, your husband is obviously very talented. It's good of you to donate your skirt for potential use, but worth it to save your bag! There are always lots of old leather bags in our charity shops, would they provide big enough pieces for his project?
ReplyDeleteAs for preferential treatment - I guess the novelty factor means your husband was far more visible and therefore of interest. I'm not sure if it would work the other way around in a hardware shop, there are probably more women who are handy DIYers than there are men who buy fabric or craft supplies. A generalisation, I know - but I bet it's true! xxx
Curtise--I hadn't thought that there might be more female DIYers than MALE crafters. I imagine you are right.
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DeleteI love that skirt on you. As for your husband in the craft store getting lots of attention, I'm not surprised. I LOVE to send my husband in to my son's school to speak with his teachers (both women), where I am convinced that he is listened to more, and treated slightly better. The edge he has in that situation is barely perceptible but I can see the difference. And if I had things I needed at the craft store I would definitely send him, I'm sure he'd get top notch service! XO, Jill
ReplyDeleteJill--I know have had DH deal with frustrating customer service on the telephone for me a time or two when the voice at the other end was female...his voice sounds like Jimmy Stewart's!
DeleteGreat story Terri! I love the word 'bricolage' although I'm not sure how to pronounce it. There are many items that can become headwear. You look great and so does DH's creation.
ReplyDeleteJudith--Are you back from your trip! How was it? I know that I have played with a number of different items as hats, but I haven't worn any on the blog.
DeleteI use to work the floor of a clothing store and the men always received great service for a lot of factors.
ReplyDelete1 they tend to need more help when it comes to fashion
2 you can up a sale easily because of that lack of fashion knowledge
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4 they tend to be friendlier than woman.
I think woman get a bit more attention in a hardware store for the same reasons. We are friendlier when we don't know exactly what we are doing and out of our element.
what a fun project. laughing that your hubby wanted your leather purse. reminds me of how i showed my hubby these stuart weitzman boots and said what a great deal i got and he thought i should sell them on ebay. i was like, uh...i wanna keep them!!! my mom gets thrifted leather skirts and jackets too to cut up and use to make stuff. she also does it with cashmere. i don't notice my hub ever getting better service than i do but it's probably because he NEVER goes shopping with me :)
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Oh lordy, please don't let him cut up a bunch of vintage Coach bags! I have been looking all over for a black one and they're getting more expensive because everyone likes them now! If he cuts them up they will only become more rare! LOL
ReplyDeleteWhat a project! My dad is a woodworker (usually only when Boeing is on strike, otherwise he doesn't have time). He built a pulpit for our church and he repaired furniture for people the last time he was laid-off. I don't know if he would take on an organ though! What a huge project! Hope it goes well :)
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Hope you're having a good weekend!
Terri, I do so love this post! I do think that 'making something from nothing' (what I call re-purposing something from stuff I already own) is most satisfying; saving a treasure like those old organs has to be one of the higher forms of art. I think men in craft or fabric stores are quite rare (and if I remember photos from your daughter's wedding, he is tall and rather striking); I'm not at all surprised he garnered so much attention and got great service. I always send Bill to the bar in any crowded pub, as women are generally invisible in those crowds. Best of all, you gave me a lovely new word for my vocabulary: bricolage is not one I've ever heard before. I'd assumed it was some sort of specialist luxury fabric! BTW, while in Australia I saw your comment about lentil recipes and so scanned my sister-in-law's cookbooks and brought two recipes home. Will make sure I let you know when I publish them. Thanks for a great post!
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