Tuesday, April 17, 2012

The Secret Room & other Pajama Parties I've Hosted


In the invitation to my Pajama Party, I mentioned a "secret room."  Several years ago, after our first empty nest remodel, we turned one of the attic bedrooms into a study for me.  In that study, I keep clothing that I consider to be costumes, all of my scrapbooking supplies, projects I'm saving for retirement, and my collection of elephants.  Just off of my study, in a little room, we initially thought of as a room to entertain the grandchildren.  When they outgrew it, the room became my "harem" room.  This little 4 x 10 space features a stained glass window, the most expensive carpet in our entire home and 31 pillows.  To enter it, one must turn the brass gong sideways, set the magic lantern to one side and crawl in.

This is certainly better accommodations than I've had for previous pajama parties I've hostessed over the years I was raising my brood of daughters and step-children.  In recent weeks, I've asked my daughters what they recall of the some of the parties we threw during my single parent days.  Predictably, their memories are very different than mine.

  • At one, I thought it would be a good idea to make banana splits.  I bought all the supplies and then allowed the girls to make them.  This was great fun until it came time to eat the results...and I had 10-12 bowls of melting ice cream.
  • At another, the girls did facials with laughable results.
  • One years, I raced out to the grocery store for supplies an hour ahead of the party's start, only to realize that the drive through had loaded another customer's groceries into my car!  A quick call to the store, they duplicated my purchase from the receipt in their database and DELIVERED the party supplies to my door!
  • At one, a 12 year old girl announced that she had a yeast infection at midnight and that I needed to make a trip out to get her the necessary medicine!?
  • I witnessed disturbing rape fantasies...
  • I delivered the entire group of girls to Sunday School in my father's mini-van the following morning.
The parties for the boy children were somehow more rowdy, but more manageable.
  • We took a group to see Pokemon one year, suffering through an hour or more, only to have the film burn in the final moments.  One guest insisted that his tub of popcorn be drenched in nacho cheese?
  • A sledge hammer was put to use cracking nuts on a butcher block in our dining room and nut shells were everywhere.
  • A feather pillow was destroyed and in the boys' efforts to hide the evidence, the vacuum was clogged with a million little pin-feathers.
  • DH ended up sleeping outside the door of the tent pitched in our living room, when the boys were still going strong at 4:30 a.m.
I don't know what kind of shenanigans attendees at Friday's Pajama Party might cook up, but the harem room is ready and waiting.


The pajama party post will go up shortly after midnight my time, Central Standard Time, Friday morning. My apologies to my international readers who may have to wait for it a bit.

 Does anyone have a hookah? Or horror stories about pajama parties that went awry?

67 comments:

  1. What a wonderful room! The stained glass window is so lovely & all the pillows as well. My own little place is a teeny little box room that probably, at the time the house was built, served as a housemaid's room. I've turned it (mostly) into my dressing room. It was my husband's early childhood bedroom. (Somebody in his family has owned this house for about 50 years or so.)

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    1. Ana--Oh, I'd love to see a photo of the housemaid's/dressing room. And don't you love living in a home with history? We have lived in ours for just 16 years, but former owners have told us plenty of stories.

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  2. What a beautiful little room! It would be perfect for a pajama party! I love the stained glass window, the carpet is gorgeous & you've picked the most beautiful pillows. Hearing your stories, I wonder what my Mum might have to say about pajama parties she hosted for me & my friends!

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    1. Stacy--DH helped me select all the pillows. It got to be pretty pricy before we decided we had "enough."

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  3. What a fantastic room. The stained glass window is gorgeous (and what a good shot of it) and I want to hang out amongst the pillows with everyone and either drink red wine, vodka gimlets, or champagne, whatever the group likes best! I don't think I am ready for pajama parties for my kids, either them going to one or me hosting, and your post has only reenforced this hesitancy, ha ha! XO, Jill

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    1. Jill--a word to the wise: having one guest per child is plenty!

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  4. oh wow- this room is spectacular! It reminds me of a bigger version of the large linen closet full of old feather pillows that I used to hang out in for hours at a time as a kid (flashlight, enid blyton and package of Tang crystals...what more could one ask for!) I want one!!

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    1. DamnGreenDress--Yes, we hung out in our linen closet too--it had a door that allowed you to enter into two rooms. Very handy. And, yes, to Enid Blyton. I hadn't thought about Tang in years!

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  5. First of all, the room is really cool..love the window. Secondly, I love memories like this...sounds like you are a fantastic mom and grand mom!! We loved making tents and sleeping in them under tables and such! This is a great pajama party room...

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    1. Pam--having the grandson living with us has prompted a few blanket forts in recent months, but we haven't attempted a pajama party for him--yet.

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  6. I didn't go to many pajama parties. Usually it was just one friend at a time. I do remember one party where we scared the bejeesus out of ourselves with an ouija board.
    Your room looks almost magical. It is really cool that you set it up like that.

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    1. Debbi--I went to a few, mostly in middle school. I totally forgot about the Ouija board and the ghost stories and the levitation tricks!

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  7. Oh my, ADORE that little secret room....
    Haha, I laughed at your pyjama party stories! Sounds like you had some riotous times! Yep, we've had some equally interesting ones too... but I am enormously intrigued about those rape fantasies now... what the...?

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    1. Carolyn--Riot is putting it mildly. I was appalled by the rape fantasies...being a good feminist mom and all. It was an interesting moment to recognize the intersection of budding sexuality and our cultural messages.

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  8. I LOVE your little room!!!!
    Will we be 'tweeting' during our party?
    I lost my hookah years ago,LOL!
    Hugs
    Reva

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    1. Reva--my mother asked me if the party would have a chat. That would have been a great idea, although some of the attendees live in remote time-zones so methinks that would be difficult to carry off. We've mostly talked about getting a hookah just to shock our our children. I've never smoked one.

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  9. oh its been forever since I smoked a hookah! I think that room is the coolest space!

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    1. Meri--why is it the youngsters have tried hookahs and I never have?!

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  10. Hookahs and magic lanterns? Is this an Arabian Nights themed party? I always wanted an excuse to get shoes with those toes that curl upward. All those pillows make me think it is time to get on the cushion bandwagon. But seriously, I am at the age where I am impressed with anyone who can still sit on the floor. Well, actually it's the getting up again that is impressive.
    Thanks for the fun of reliving all those slumber parties.

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    1. Beryl--well, I do have an "Arabian Nights" get-up, but that's not on what I'm planning to wear. I do have a pair of slippers with curled up toes--we found them in a Goodwill. And, yes, I've begun to have that problem with getting up.

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  11. Wow - what a fabulous room! What is its intended purpose? It's quite wonderful. I don't have any memories like these I'm afraid... but I shall borrow some of yours if that's ok. Sarah xxx

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    1. Sarah--It is a 'lounging' room, interpret that however you want. wink, wink. Please come to the slumber party.

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  12. Thanks for commenting Terri I may not have found your blog otherwise.A Harem room sounds like my kind of room .I wish I had a house with lots of nooks and crannies:)

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    1. Nelly--I shall comment some more, I've begun to follow you. My house has MANY nooks and crannies, and perhaps a ghost or two.

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  13. Terri, that is such a beautiful room! I can imagine just lying in there facing the stained glass window and reading the whole day. What a wonderful space.

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    1. Narda--It is a snug little spot for reading and is fully equipped with lighting. It was mostly my husband's idea.

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  14. That is a magic room!!! I loooove that room!!! I can think of no better place to host a pyjama party. Do you ever just sprawl flat on the floor in there and daydream? It's made for creativity.

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    1. Melanie--I have sprawled on floor and daydreamed there. Usually having a window is a distraction, but this one doesn't distract. Plus, you can spy on passerbys--if you're so inclined.

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  15. It's a stunning room, Terri, and that stained glass is beautiful.
    I never went to/hosted any pyjama parties as a child or teenager (I don't think anyone did then) and now with my own children, sleepovers tend to be one child at a time, unless it's a birthday. My eldest and her friends had great fun with the karaoke machine, but they only let me do one song - meanies! Your invitation (and Melanie's recent wig exploration!) has inspired me to do a dressing-up post... like I need an excuse, ha! xxx

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    1. Curtise--thank you. You are wise to keep the sleepovers to one at a time. I think as a single parent I often felt guilty and tried to make up for it by over-doing. Oh, a karoke machine. How could I have forgotten. My specialty is Tammy Wynette's "Stand by your Man."

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  16. Now that's a really magical room. I'd be tempted to go inside and lock the door behind me from time to time.

    Darla

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    1. Darla--actually, I do have a lock on the study. I could turn into a hermit...with internet access.

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  17. Love the Secret Room. Neat entrance! :) Of course, in our house, there are gongs in about every room, so there would be no mystery there!!

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    1. April--gongs in every room? How wonderful is that? We have just two, but both of concert quality. I love to warm them up, then strike, and stand feeling the vibrations...

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  18. Oh, how I've always wanted a secret room! I've had to content myself with one or two not-so-secret corners of rooms. Love yours!

    Let the pajama antics (pajantics?) begin!

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    1. Anne--I have "nests" at other locations in our home. The truth of the matter is that I rarely USE my lovely little room. And yes, let the fun begin.

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  19. What a cool room! My slumber parties were always held in our basement, which although finished, was still a basement. Nothing too crazy happened from what I can recall (unless I'm blocking it out) - just lots of Truth or Dare, make-up applying and prank phone calls to the boys in our class.

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    1. Anne--You have just conjured up an ancient memory not of Truth or Dare, but of Spin the Bottle! I shall not share the entire memory...

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  20. Wow Terri what a cool place to host the party !
    It reminds me of Morocco.... and I will certainly be there with a ghostly story.

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    1. Lorena--I have never been to Morroco, though I would love to go and please attend and share a ghost story!

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  21. What a fab room!
    hookahs and pajamas sounds like my kind of fun.
    cant wait to see your hookahs!
    Besios

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    1. La Dama--You had better visit. You know how to rock those baby doll pajamas!!

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  22. WONDERFUL Post.thanks for share..

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    1. Busana--Welcome to Rags! Hope you can come to the virtual slumber party.

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  23. Gorgeous room. I wish I could be there in person!

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    1. Gracey--Are you planning to attend the slumber party? I hope so.

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  24. i need me one of those rooms. and what wild parties you had up there. i'm sure your kiddos thought you were a cool mom :)

    http://spinning-threads.blogspot.com

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    1. Claire--Your kiddos would have so much fun in this room. When my grandchildren were smaller, we had tea parties there. but, yes, young mothers often need a small space away from it all.

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  25. Stained glass with multiple pillows looks like the perfect retreat to me! I remember similar parties with my kids; brought back long forgotten memories.

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    1. Judith--I had not realized you had kid(s), plural! These memories are fond ones now, but in the moment, they often weren't!

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  26. OMG,that stripey Woolf Brothers frock 2 posts ago is GORGEOUS!
    You suit it's 60's vibe,very much!
    Now,that room is divine!I'd love to wallow around in there,with or without melted bowls of icecream!PJ party?! I'd soooo love to do that! I don't wear 'em,but I do have some vintage nighties....SQUEE! I've never been to a PJ party!!
    We did have a hookah, a working one,until the earthquake killed it.
    Bugger.
    XXX

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    1. Helga--thank you for the compliment on the Woolf Brothers dress!

      Truth be known, I often begin the sleep without a nightgown and in my insomniac wanderings often done the white cotton chemise that are my faves. Hm, did insurance cover the broken hookah? Better make a claim.

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  27. Terri, the blog your mentioned was called the Uniform Project. Sheena had several of those dresses for washing purposes, but they were identical to each other, and she came up with a new outfit nearly every day, wearing the same LBD. I simply adored that blog in its first year, found it incredibly inspiring!

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    1. Carolyn--thank you for coming up with the title to the blog, which I couldn't recall. I had not realized that she had several of the same dress.

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  28. Such a perfect hidden space :)

    I dozed off at a sleep over once and woke to find nacho pieces stuffed up my nose.

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    1. Stef--Yep, practical jokes like that do have a tendency to happen at pajama parties. I know at those I attended in middle school, we often woke to find that our bras had been frozen into a chunk of ice over night!

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  29. OMG, that is a fabulous room!!!! It would be a great place to 'get away from it all' with a good book. More than likely, tho, I'd give it to my grand kids for a hideout. I am not very tolerant of kids so not sure how I would handle a kids pj party. I hope I remember to attend your party tomorrow night.

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    1. Linda--Our grandkids are too big for the room now though it was perfect when they were 5 and younger. I can't really imagine doing a pajama party as a grandma! I hope you come.

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  30. I want to come live in that slumber party dream of a room. I'm nominating you for best Mom! I really enjoyed reading this post and just like so many of the other readers you have brought back some really fun and almost completely buried memories so thanks for that!

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    1. Krista--How wonderful to see a comment from you! I just started following your blog after that eye-popping tulip post! Perhaps you'd like to come to this pajama party tomorrow night.

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  31. Reminds me of the "I dream of genie" room that I have wanted all of my life. So jealous right now and wish I could join in on the slumber party fun.

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    1. Bella--you can. Simply do a "pajama party" blog post on Friday or Saturday and link to it! It's like Visible Monday.

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  32. I also had some flashbacks when you talked about slumber parties. I don't remember attending any, but I vividly remember one we hosted for our daughter's birthday when she was about 7. We darkened all the lights and my husband came out with a candle and told ghost stories. It was a huge hit and she talked about it for years afterward.

    I'm going to do my best to come join you! The room looks absolutely perfect. Now, will I wear the red flannel pants with the scottie dogs on them (compliments of my mother-in-law this past Christmas) or one of my beloved caftan-type things? Hmmmm.

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    1. Oh, Jean, I'm excited to have you join us. I have already seen a number of posts from my international readers...and it promises to be an eclectic and global event. Perhaps your husband will tell us all a ghost story...I live in a former funeral home!!

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  33. Sweet stories from the past and a great room. You're so rich!!!

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    1. Angie--your comment really gave me pause. I've been thinking about it for a couple of hours. I posted these photos because I thought it would be a great place for the party...and I really didn't think through that they might seem like I'm showing off somehow. I never, never, never want to come across that way. And I want to continue to be sensitive to the variety of life situations and circumstances we are all dealing with.

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  34. The harem room looks really cool!

    I have a feeling Angie didn't intend that comment in the way you interpreted it. It never seems to me like you're showing off. Not at all.

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