Over the holidays I came across a long essay by Susan Sontag, "
The Double Standard of Aging." Having enjoyed her books,
On Photography and
Illness as Metaphor, I read the entire thing with interest, but one paragraph in particular struck a nerve.
Aging also varies according to social class. Poor people look old much earlier in their lives than do rich people. But anxiety about aging is certainly more common, and more acute, among middle-class and rich women than among working-class women. Economically disadvantaged women in this society are more fatalistic about aging; they can't afford to fight the cosmetic battle as long or as tenaciously. Indeed, nothing so clearly indicates the fictional nature of this crisis than the fact that women who keep their youthful appearance the longest-women who lead unstrenuous, physically sheltered lives, who eat balanced meals, who can afford good medical care, who have few or no children-are those who feel the defeat of age most keenly. Aging is much more a social judgment than a biological eventuality.
On some intuitive level I knew this. Years ago, a friend who knew the wife of KC's mayor, described how she would rarely turn her head, thinking that this preventive action in her 30s might prevent wrinkles later in life. I laughed then, but as the visible signs of aging have progressed I understand a bit better.
Thinking about this intersection of beauty and class leads me to the theme I'd like to give Rags this year. In September, I realized that I had not entered a retail store of any type in many months. I realized that I did not even know HOW to shop in most retail stores. This year, I have decided I want to spend the next twelve months window shopping (or window licking, as C. at
Aesthetic Alterations puts it). The twist I want to put on this endeavor is to begin with the dollar stores and gradually work my way up the cost ladder, ending (fingers crossed) in a designer store, perhaps even in an appointment to try on the latest thing. During this time, I want to keep my budget the same as this past year ($1200), spending no more. This means that if I want a Hermes scarf, I'll need to learn to delay gratification until late in the year.
I'll need your help with this. I want to rank stores according to cost, but I've shopped retail so seldom that I don't even know how to do this. If I do Dollar Stores in January, I'll do discount places like Walmart, KMart, Target in February.. But what comes next? Should I include Costco? Should I visit area outlet stores? Should I do a month of consignment shops? Should I include online shopping? And I'll need your tips on learning how to shop these places for the best value.
I've already perused 4 local "dollar" stores, snapping photos, but spent nary a cent. These products are all from Family Dollar. I was a little surprised that things here weren't actually a dollar.
I've been known to use baby products in my beauty regimen. I used baby shampoo myself when my children were small. I've powdered my pits with a light dusting of baby powder or talc. I love the smell of baby lotion and baby oil, particularly in it's gel form, is a fine moisturizer. Petroleum jelly on one's feet, after a sleep in a pair of socks, or on one's lips can soften vexing rough spots. And Q-tips have myriad uses.
Individual flossers are way easier to use if you're not a dental hygienist.
Shaving supplies--I like the multiple blades type myself.
< Eyebrow shapers for those of us who wake up with an eyebrow that's grown an inch over night.
Cold water washes>
Fake nails (these are actually purple) Umbrellas, inexpensive enough to be disposable.
Some crazy panties (I didn't check out the blend) and novelty socks. I'm curious what kind of beauty & fashion items you might shop at these stores. And, please, help me put the stores in order so that each month I attempt a more ambitious shopping experience.